When Her Best Friend is a Man

When her best friend is a man

When you are dating someone you really like, and everything goes smashingly you can be stopped in your tracks when she says that her best friend is a man. If you are like most men, your jaw drop for a moment before you begin to get some terrible fantasies running through your mind about what her and her best friend do when they are alone together. Before you freak out, you should definitely take a break.

Before you write her off completely, and the relationship, you should ask her about her best male friend. You should ask her when they met, how long they have been friends and what they are doing together. Just show an interest in who this guy is and what role he plays in her life. By doing this you can get some much needed information about the other man in her life, her desire that you take an interest in all areas of her life.

So you should ask to meet his best friend. You should not make it sound as if you want that level of competition, instead you just make it look like you want to get to know his friends and be a part of every part of her life. She will appreciate this, and she will be happy to introduce you to her friends if they really are just friends. Make sure you make yourself available to meet this best friend or she can pick up on your concerns associated with him and get defensive.

When you meet the best friend you need to come across as friendly as possible without being overly friendly. Just check him out, get to know him, see if he feels jealous of you at all, and go from there. You can learn a lot if you just sit back and watch the two of them together. You may find when you see them they are really friends, and this may put you at ease. If you find that they are too superficial Feely, it's good to know the following about the two of them now instead of later.

When you meet the best friend you'll probably feel better about things. Chances are you'll see that he's just a friend and that they have no interest in each other. If you are concerned about the relationship, ask your girlfriend about them. Tell her that you really liked her friend, but you feel a little jealous of their relationship. If she gets defensive, you may have something to worry about. The best thing you can do is to feel it out as you go along and go from there.